How Others Will Judge Us Now And In The Future

Xander and Tori, It’s been 83 weeks and 3 days since we signed the paperwork to give you want you and your mom wanted. Your dad and I have been busy.  We decided to join a local gym here in town. I go after work every day except for Mondays and Thursdays because of other … Continue reading How Others Will Judge Us Now And In The Future

Bitter Sweet Accomplishments

That is how I would describe the weekend. After 3.5 years of always having piles of laundry to do I was able to finally get it all completed and either donated to Good Will or hung up. I had hoped to find in my last load my final sock of Tori’s but at last I … Continue reading Bitter Sweet Accomplishments

Sodom and Gomorrah

Xander and Tori, Some days are better than others. Today is not one of those good days. I am sick and all I want is a hug from my step-children. Yet I will not get one of those for at least 3913 days. I was able to make me some hot tea with some sweetener … Continue reading Sodom and Gomorrah

Live Like A Dog

Good Morning Tori and Xander, I know it has been a while since I have written but to be honest what is there to say? Nothing really has changed. We still haven’t heard from you or seen you now for 443 days.  That is 10,632 hours or 637,920 minutes or 38,275,200 seconds.  I been trying … Continue reading Live Like A Dog

Step-Moms and Battle Buddies

For the Stepmoms who fight a battle on two fronts when their spouse has lost their children. A Letter to Your Spouse, As I sit here reading about the rise in male suicide to the shame, isolation, hurt, embarrassment, anxiety, and confusion I cannot help and think of you.[1] The trials that you experience and … Continue reading Step-Moms and Battle Buddies

Tribbles and Locutus

Good Morning Tori and Xander, How has your school week been so far?  I hope it has been going really well. I have learned a lot of the past year and two months. I have learned that God allows for pain to occur so we can learn to appreciate the small joys he has given … Continue reading Tribbles and Locutus

Five Little Ducks

Good Morning Tori and Xander, I hope this letter finds you well. Did you have a good day back from vacation at school?  Did you have a good Thanksgiving? I found pictures of our last thanksgiving together. It made me smile. I also found a song that made me think of the two of you … Continue reading Five Little Ducks

Remain Strong and Be Like Joseph

Good Morning Grieving Step-Parents and Parents, I am starting to realize that there is more pain in the day after a holiday than the actual holiday itself. The day after the holiday it is hard going to social media and watch family photos celebrating thanksgiving. This year we made lots of progress getting our house … Continue reading Remain Strong and Be Like Joseph

Chocolate Doughnuts, Chilli Pie, and Chicken Alfredo

Good Morning Xander and Tori, Happy Turkey Day!!! I hope you are going to have a great day and enjoy the feast that is prepared for you.  Today we started the day with chocolate doughnuts and chocolate milks. Today we are going to be cooking chilli pie and chicken alfredo. Tomorrow after we go to … Continue reading Chocolate Doughnuts, Chilli Pie, and Chicken Alfredo

Tater Tot Casserole, Pyrex Measuring Cups, and FF VII

Good morning Tori and Xander, How was your first day off of your vacation?  Did you have fun and enjoy the day.  It was beautiful outside. I just wanted to let you know I finished my degree and will be graduating this December. My Christian Healing class I am taking is for fun but not … Continue reading Tater Tot Casserole, Pyrex Measuring Cups, and FF VII