Increased Use Of Technology As An Escape And More

In 2008 Dr. Baker was performing a study on Parental Alienation Syndrome that identified findings of adults that as children had suffered from Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS). PAS is defined as “a set of symptoms manifested by the child during and after the process of parents divorcing. The syndrome demonstrates the family suffering and the psychic blows suffered by the child when entangled in feelings of revenge, hatred and rejection. The child is disrespected and used as a tool to punish and cause pain in the alienated parent.”[1] Dr. Baker found that in her interviews that many of her interviewees revealed that the alienating parent had emotionally, physically, or sexually abused them and that the alienating parent had features of a narcissist or have a borderline or antisocial personality disorder.  They also found that alienating parents were often very active alcoholics. [2]

The participants of her study were now adults and they believed the PAS they suffered had long term negative consequences.  Many of the participants suffered from depression, turned to drugs and alcohol, had failed relationships and multiple divorces.  These divorces resulted in them being alienated from their own children.[3] Thus beginning a cycle of continual abuse for a family over disappointment, rage, and sadness over the loss of a failed relationship. Another disturbing trend is that children who have suffered PAS from a HCBP tend to have a self-hatred attribute which they internalize which shows up in adults as not being able to give or accept love from a trusted figure.[4]

Another study found in 1991 and an updated version in 2013 by Clawar and Rivlin that the harmful effects of Parental Alienation can result in some of the following attributes to the children.[5]

  • Sexual Promiscuity
  • Poor Eating Habits
  • Disheveled Living Space
  • Increased Use of Technology as an Escape
  • Diminished Attention Span
  • Conflicts in Peer Relationships
  • School Dysfunction

Therefore in summary, PAS can have long term multigenerational effects on the children who are caught between two parents. Revenge although sweet at times can hurt those you love the most. Eventually PAS children become adults whose loathing and self-hatred will turn on the parent who initiated alienating of the target parent. As Christians stepparents and grieving parents it is important that we pray often for our children and the HCBP because the sin of alienating a parent based on hate and no safety related reason will befall multiple generations and it’s a sin that keeps recycling itself. Therefore to break that chain we must pray hard and often for the restitution of that sin and the restoring of the family bond with our children. We also must pray for ourselves and have our prayer partners pray for us to seek forgiveness for the sins of the HCBP. May you find peace today and seek forgiveness in your heart so when your children return that you will be prepared emotionally to love them.

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[1] Sarmet, Y. A. (n.d.). Medea’s children and the Parental Alienation Syndrome. Retrieved November 15, 2017, from http://www.scielo.br/scielo.php?pid=S0103-65642016000300482&script=sci_arttext&tlng=en

[2] Baker, A. J. (2008, Nov. & dec.). Parental Alienation Syndrome — The Parent/Child Disconnect. Retrieved November 15, 2017, from http://www.socialworktoday.com/archive/102708p26.shtml

[3] Ibid.

[4] The Long Term Impact of Parent Alienation Syndrome (PAS). (n.d.). Retrieved November 15, 2017, from https://www.networktherapy.com/library/articles/Long-Term-Impact-of-Parent-Alienation-Syndrome/

[5] Clawar, S. S., & Rivlin, B. V. (2013). Children held hostage: identifying brainwashed children, presenting a case, and crafting solutions. Chicago: American Bar Association.

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